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The nine personality types of the Enneagram
can be arranged into three groups called the Triads or the Centres.
The Feeling Centre (Types
2,3,4)
The Thinking Centre (Types
5,6,7)
The Instinctive Centre (Types
7,8,9)
Each Centre of the Enneagram describes the main imbalances
that exist in each
personality type. The personality types in the thinking centre are not
necessarily
more intelligent than the other types. Instead, these types actually
lack
true connection to their inner knowledge and guidance. Their
personalities
try to compensate for this lack of inner guidance by using mental
strategies.
The same pattern exists with the types in all the centres.
The three centres refer to the three centers or sources of
human intelligence.
Typically, we think of intelligence as a mental faculty. One is
intelligent
because one can understand and solve problems. However, this source of
intelligence
is not the only way in which one can truly know something. The heart is
also
a source of intelligence. Through the heart we connect with our
feelings
and the emotions of others. We can understand what others feel and
value
through our feelings and values. The love and values we recognize in
ourselves
and in others leads to an understanding of our identify and that of
others.
The third source of intelligence is our instinct. Our instinct is
related
to our gut (our physical body). Instinct allows us to connect to our
life
force and our vitality.
The Feeling Centre (Types 2,3,4)
The types in the feeling centre have gifts
and issues involving their emotions.
When they are healthy and balanced, their use of emotion is
constructive
and especially beneficial to their relationships. When they are
unhealthy,
their emotions become imbalanced.
The essential qualities of this centre involve the deep
connection
with the intelligence of the heart. The heart is our source of feelings
and
emotional connection with others. It helps us recognize our love and
value
for ourselves and for others. Through feelings and value we understand
our
identity, who we (and others) really are.
At some point in their development, Twos, Threes, and Fours
feel that they
have lost these essential qualities -- that they have lost contact with
their
value and with their identify. They adopt a false belief that they are
worthless,
leading to an underlying feeling of shame.
To compensate, the personality tries to create and maintain a
personal identity
that will overcome these feelings. This self-image is based on memories
and
interpretations from their past. By identifying with this self-image,
they
create a false sense of value. Twos, Threes, and Fours spend a great
deal
of energy seeking validation from others to affirm this self-image.
Unfortunately, others do not always recognize or pay enough
attention to
the self-image. As a result, Twos, Threes, and Fours may begin to
experience
their underlying feelings of shame. They may become hostile with others
and
express hatred of those who don't value them. Another problem is that
by
focusing exclusively on their created persona, they must reject some
aspects
of their true nature. For whatever reason, these aspects must remain
hidden
from others (and from themselves) because they are associated with
qualities
that render them worthless.
The Two in the Feeling Centre
Twos tend to project a self-image of a caring, nurturing,
friendly helper.
They tend to over express their feelings, focusing on the positive
emotions, while repressing the negative ones. Their self-image is
directed
outward trying to get others to like them. Generally, Twos accomplish
this
task by being kind and giving to others and expecting others to
validate
and appreciate them. Twos are trying to earn attention: by being kind
and
loving others, others will be kind and loving in return. Twos can
maintain
their "all-good" self-image by rejecting what they see as their
"negative"
qualities. They also minimize their own needs so they can focus on
meeting
the needs of others.
Sometimes the Two gets into the situation where they are not
needed. Since
Twos get their worth from helping others (they need to be needed), they
will
still try to find ways to help others, even if it really isn't
required.
With the best of intentions, Twos can start to become intrusive and
meddlesome
and try to make others dependent on them.
The Three in the Feeling Centre
Threes tend to project a self-image of the winner, someone who
embodies the
values of their community. Threes have a hard time getting in touch
with
their feelings -- they tend to push their feelings aside to make
favourable
impressions and to function efficiently and productively. Like Twos,
Threes
focus their self-image outward: because they desperately want the
approval
of others. Threes are always aware of what's important to others and
they
also focus their self-image inward to shape and adapt their persona to
better
match what is expected of them. Also, like Twos, Threes reject their
authentic
self in favour of a more valued identity. If Threes do not get the
attention
they demand from others, they are likely to promote themselves and
their
accomplishments (perhaps exaggerating or becoming untruthful).
Increased
levels of shame may erupt as hostility by insulting others and putting
them
down to (temporarily) feel superior.
The Four in the Feeling Centre
Fours tend to project a self-image of a mysterious, special,
and unique individual. Fours under express their feelings, preferring
indirect methods to share and communicate what they feel. Fours spend a
great deal of energy directing their
self-image inward. Fours are seeking their true identify and are trying
to
make sure that it is based on their inner feelings and imagination.
Fours reject many of their positive qualities and common
characteristics that they share with others (it's hard to be unique if
you are like others). Fours seek
attention through withdrawal (which may at first seem like a
contradiction).
Fours withdraw to pull others in (especially into their inner world).
They
want others to notice their depth of character and to obtain sympathy
for
what they feel is their unjust suffering. Fours believe that Life has
dealt
them a bad hand and their underlying feeling of shame may lead to
hostility against Life (despair). In addition, they may feel hostility
at their parents (or others in their past), themselves (for being
defective), and at others (for not recognizing how special the Four is).
The Thinking Centre (Types 5,6,7)
The types in the thinking centre
have gifts and issues involving their thinking. When they are healthy
and
balanced, they have incredible keen insights and ideas. When they are
unhealthy,
their thinking becomes imbalanced.
The essential qualities of this centre
involve the deep connection with the intelligence of the mind. The
gifts
of the mind include the ability to observe, perceive, and effortlessly
understand.
The mind also provides us with confidence and inner guidance.
At some point in their development, Fives, Sixes, and Sevens
feel that they
have lost these essential qualities -- that they have lost contact with
their
inner guidance. They adopt a false belief that they have no inner
support
or confidence, leading to underlying feelings of fear and anxiety. They
see the world as a threatening and uncertain place.
To compensate, Fives, Sixes, and Sevens become very motivated
to find sources
of security and confidence. They try to anticipate and prepare for the
future.
They spend their time trying to find and maintain a sense of inner
guidance
and support. These types pursue mental strategies and/or belief systems
to
create a false sense of security against anxiety.
Unfortunately, they do not always feel they have the security
they need to
combat their fear. As a result, their insecurity and anxiety increase.
They
seek methods to decrease their anxiety. They tend to be wary of
authority
and are generally cautious with relationships. They dislike uncertainty
and
want to be prepared for it, but have difficulty with closure.
The Five in the Thinking Centre
Fives tend to over express their thinking and substitute
thinking for doing. Fives see the world as threatening and uncertain so
they focus their thinking inward, hoping to understand it. Fives
believe if they sufficiently study the world, they will understand it.
Once they understand it, they will have the confidence to act and cope
with
the outer world. Unfortunately Fives get stuck in an "analysis
paralysis"
where every answer they generate raises more questions, which they must
answer.
Like the other members of this Centre, Fives seek security. Because
they feel
the world is very uncertain, Fives withdraw to feel secure. They
retreat into
their minds to understand the world around them, removing themselves
from
directly observing that which fears them. Unfortunately, this strategy
generates
even more fear. By removing themselves from the world, they are less
able
to participate -- the best path to understanding.
The Six in the Thinking Centre
Sixes have a hard time getting in
touch with their thinking and inner guidance. Like Fives, they focus
their
thinking inward to avoid external threats, but they have serious doubts
about
their own abilities. Consequently, they seek reassurance and
confirmation
outside themselves. However, Sixes may start to doubt their authority
figures,
resulting in a vacillating between their own ideas and those of others.
Sixes
seek security by finding something (or someone) in which to believe. By
having
a clear set of rules or beliefs, Sixes will gain confidence to cope
with
life. Sixes feel they must earn their security. They believe if they do
their
part for the authority, it will take care of them. Sixes are constantly
aware
of their anxiety and always react against it. Sometimes, they rely on
their
authority to allay their fears, sometimes they will courageously
confront
their fears directly.
The Seven in the Thinking Centre
Sevens tend to under express their thinking and substitute
doing for thinking. Sevens see their inner world as
threatening; issues of sadness, loss, and grief cause great anxiety.
Sevens avoid dealing with these issues by fleeing their inner world and
trying to keep preoccupied with the outer world. As a result, they
focus their thinking
outward, keeping their mind busy with new plans and ideas. Their
anxiety
is repressed through constant activity, and by concentrating on
positive expectations,
ideas, and plans. Like Fives and Sixes, Sevens are also seeking
security,
but they are unsure where to find it. Sevens feel that they have to try
all
sources of security and that way they'll eliminate the ones that don't
work
and find the ones that do. Sevens however, have a hard time focusing on
the sources of security they presently have. Instead, they are always
thinking
about the future. Keeping their options open, Sevens try not to over
commit
themselves to any one thing, lest they miss out on an even better
experience.
The Instinctive Centre (Types 8,9,1)
The types in the Instinctive Centre
have gifts and issues involving their instinct. When they are healthy
and
balanced, their have strong relational skills with others and their
environment.
When they are unhealthy, their relationship skills become imbalanced.
The
essential qualities of this Centre involves the deep connection with
the
intelligence of the body, their instinct. Instinct is a type of
knowledge
that is not often recognized. Our instincts involve our sense of
vitality
and assertion. Instinct involves our inner wants and our ability to
assert
them in a way that is consistent and harmonious with the world around
us.
At some point in their development, Eights, Nines, and Ones
feel that they
have lost these essential qualities -- that they have no sense of self
and
that they cannot assert their wants. Being unable to express themselves
leads
to an underlying feeling of rage.
To compensate, the personality tries to create and maintain a
sense of self,
where they are free to influence the world, but not be influenced by
it.
Consequently, the types in the instinctive Centre are motivated to find
ways
to feel autonomous and independent. One way to feel a sense of self is
to
carry tension in our bodies. Another is to create boundaries around us.
Unfortunately, when Eights, Nines, and Ones do not get the
autonomy that
they seek, their underlying feelings of rage rise up. They may become
aggressive
(in a way, proving their independence). They way become resistant to
change,
again to bolster feelings of autonomy.
The Eight in the Instinctive Triad
Eights over express their instinct. They act upon whatever gut
hunches and powerful impulse arise. They feel
that autonomy will come if they assert their wants aggressively and if
they
resist being influenced. They must remain in control. Eights extend
their
sphere of influence to include their families, their home, their
workplace,
etc. These expansive boundaries help them to feel substantial and
immortal.
They may become confrontational to feel their boundaries. They also
repress
their gentler, emotional side because it is seen as vulnerable.
Ironically,
Eights repress these instinctual qualities.
The Nine in the Instinctive Centre
Nines are out of touch with their instinctual drives. Nines
believe that expressing their views or asserting their needs will cause
conflict or lack of harmony. Nines shut down most of
their instincts by repressing and denying their own wants and needs.
Nines try to maintain their autonomy by resisting change (both external
pressures and passionate feelings). Nines often accommodate and
go with
the flow (in a sense giving up their independence), but they do so with
the
agreement to give the Nine her own space to do her own thing. If they
don't
get that space, their underlying rage may come out in
passive-aggressive
forms.
The One in the Instinctive Centre
Ones under express their instinct. Ones repress their inner
wants and instincts with a strict superego-driven conscience. They
resist their own feelings and wants through self-control (an inner
boundary). Ones can maintain their autonomy by being perfect -- being
above criticism. They also seek autonomy from their own feelings and
wants. When Ones feel that they are losing their autonomy, their rage
and
aggression is directed inward through harsh self-criticism. Sometimes,
they
lose self-control and have outbursts of anger towards others.
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